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3/29/2019 1 Comment

There is Beauty in Discomfort

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​According to Dictionary.com, discomfort is the absence of comfort or ease. It also deals with hardship or mild pain.
 
In this faith walk, we often times experience discomfort. It isn’t something I necessarily enjoy going through, but it is required for us to grow in Christ. It requires for us to change or to evolve.
 
When we are new babes in Christ, there still may be things that we still do that might not be pleasing in the eye sight of the Lord. But when the relationship grows and we start to learn more about His ways for us, eventually we have to get rid of those old behaviors so we can be more like Him.
 
Speaking from experience, there were times when I struggled with change because of the fear of the unknown. There have been times when a change was announced and I would instantly go into panic mode instead of praying for peace. How foolish of me to worry about things before they even happened. How foolish of me to worry in general!
 
Think about the position you’re in right now at your job. Think about the classes you’re taking in school. Think about the city that you're living in. Do you see yourself being there forever? I bet you can answer no to at least one of those scenario’s. Well in order to go to that next position, class or city, you have to go higher. Going higher requires you to get uncomfortable.
 
From his devotional, “Right People, Right Place, Right Plan”, Pastor Jentezen Franklin speaks on discomfort by giving an example of an eagle and her eaglets. Here’s a great viewpoint Pastor Franklin gave that truly made me think.
 

“When a mother eagle wants her eaglets to learn how to fly, she begins to tear up the nest. She removes the animal fur to expose briars and thorns. Suddenly, the nest isn’t such a comfortable place anymore, so the eaglets quickly decide to stretch their wings and learn to soar.”
 
When God calls us to change, it’s to make us better. It’s not to punish us or cause harm to us, even though we may think that originally.
 
Whenever I’m nervous or feel out of my comfort zone, I remember when I went away for college. I was excited to move, but when it got closer to the time, I was scared to leave the nest. I cried for days when my parents left me to go back to Jacksonville. But after a while, things got easier. I found a church to attend, joined the gospel choir at the university and joined a community service organization. I’ve grown so much as a woman since leaving home. I don’t believe my growth would’ve happened if I decided to stay where I was. I look back and say, “Wow God, thank you for the discomfort during that time. It wasn’t easy but it was so worth it.”
 
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” (Isaiah 41:10).
 
When you're going through a situation that will cause discomfort, I encourage you to trust in the Lord. He will be right next to you during the transition. It’s not supposed to feel good. If it were, then you would probably be the first person to sign up or everyone would be doing it. On this faith walk, there will be many times God will tell us to do something whether we want to or not. You have to decide if you want to elevate or stay stagnant. I choose to elevate. Being stagnant gets boring very quickly. Imagine if Abraham told God no when God told him to leave his family to go to an unknown land. He would not have been blessed, period! There is beauty in discomfort. There is beauty in obeying God over our own desires.
 
I’m currently trusting God and believing that within the next few months God will provide for the ideas He has placed in my heart. I know I heard from God about this specific thing because of my relationship with Him and because of the confirmations and peace I’ve received. Right now, reasonably speaking, it seems impossible. But I serve a God that makes the impossible, POSSIBLE! Will It be easy? I’m not sure, but I know God is leading the way if there is some discomfort.
 
So I encourage you all to keep pushing through the mild pain. Keep pushing through the uneasiness. It’s all for a greater purpose. Level Up.
 

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3/21/2019 1 Comment

Know Your Worth

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When it comes to dating, I have a lot to say. I’ve had my share of dating men that God did not intend for me to be with. If you’ve read my book, then you already know what I went through in the past with toxic relationships. I thought that the man I was involved with years ago was going to be my husband. With thinking that, I settled for a lot of things I knew wasn’t right and things that made me forget who I was. I had little to no confidence and even suffered from depression. I thought I needed a man to be happy. Instead of pursuing after God, I was pursing after a relationship, even when God told me that wasn’t the man for me. Thank God for healing and restoration!
 
Since being healed from depression and low self-esteem, God has given me a platform to share my story with other women. So this week, we will talk about self-worth and remembering who we are in Christ. I love my men, but this week this blog post is dedicated to all the women!
 
Ladies, it is important to remember that while we’re on this journey of being godly women and following the ways of the Lord, that we remember to never settle for less than what we deserve. I see this to many times when I’m giving advice to my girlfriends about someone they may be involved with. If you don’t remember a single thing I tell you, please remember this:
 
If he wants to be with you, he will show you. You won’t have to second guess a single thing. His actions will be clear and you will have a peace of mind about it.
 
If you’re involved with someone that never picks up the phone to ask how your day was, if they are acting as if they are single on social media, can go a day without speaking to you, or only hits you up for sex…RUN TO THE NEAREST EXIT! It’s time to let him go sis.
 
You may be saying, “But Tyrah he’s busy”. I’m sorry but I’m a firm believer that no matter how busy a person may be, they can at least send a text and communicate that they’re busy. Period.
 
I heard Sarah Jakes Roberts say on her podcast, “Your insecurity is bait for someone to take advantage of you”. NO LIES DETECTED Auntie Sarah!
 
Ladies, if you’re not secure within yourself, some men play off of that. Some men love to play games and they know who they can play games with and who they can’t. Have you ever been with a man that apologizes for doing something you didn’t like but continues to do the same thing? They’ll do right for a couple of days but the cycle repeats itself? Yeah, he’s playing games and knows he can get away with it because you, my dear sis, keep allowing it to happen.
 
Love is a beautiful thing, but at what expense will it cost you your peace? Would you rather have a peace of mind being single or crying your eyes out trying to figure out why your dude won’t act right? Would you rather spend your time practicing self-love or going through the same cycles hoping it will get better when you know that it never will. Is he really your man to begin with? Is this someone God intended for you? If not, be frozen and let it go. These are the questions you have to ask yourself.
 
While we’re on the subject, let’s talk about sex. Sex can cloud our judgement. Now, I’m not telling you what to do with your body, but what I will say is be careful. When we have sex or any form of intimacy, we are creating soul ties. Everything that person does starts to affect you. You ever wondered why? Maybe it’s because sex is involved. (I say maybe because I’m still a virgin but I almost lost my virginity because I thought it would make things better). I was very sad during my toxic relationship years but I truly believe if I added sex to the equation, then I would’ve felt worse.
 
You may say, “I can have sex without having feelings”. That may be true for some but I honestly believe that is simply not true for a lot of women, no matter how hard you try to sound. Sex was created by God so of course it’s beautiful, but He meant it for marriage. So if you’re having sex with a person but there are still toxic traits still occurring, maybe you should try taking sex out of the equation. A lot of people joke around about being sprung over the “you know what”, but that’s nothing to play about. If you’re allowing things to go unresolved or continuing to get hurt just because that person is good in bed, then that’s a serious issue. That is addiction and insanity.
 
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well” (Psalms 139:14).
 
Ladies, you are QUEENS. Start believing it and act like one. You don’t have to settle for less in a relationship. I know the feeling in wanting to be loved and appreciated, but understand this: God’s love is all you need. His love never fails us. His love is everyday all day. You will never have to second guess God’s love for you.
 
Now this part applies to both men and women. Please know that if you don’t have self-worth and self-love, there will always be a void in your heart. No man, woman or substance, will ever be able to fill in that void. If you’re mental health isn’t right, do not go into a relationship messed up. Allow yourself to heal. Pray for discernment so that when the next person comes along, you’ll know from the start if that person is even worth your time.
 
If you’re single, use that extra time to seek God and his plans for you. Use this time to work on things that may be toxic about you, so that you won’t enter into your next relationship with those same toxic traits. I pray for my husband all the time and I’m not even dating anyone right now. If you're dating, pray and ask God is this the relationship for you. Date with purpose. Are the both of you equally yoked? Go to God in prayer.
 
But whatever you do, know your worth. Know who you are. Your identity doesn’t come from man or woman. It comes from our Creator.
 
Love, Tyrah

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3/14/2019 1 Comment

Say Yes

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One of my favorite worship songs is “Yes” by Shekinah Glory. When the song first came out, I was at church and a young man mimed to it. I remember tears pouring down my face because the song was so beautiful to me. I knew the song was anointed because I would cry every single time I heard it afterwards. But looking back at it, the lyrics didn’t resonate with me until I got older.
 
My favorite part of the song is when the choir sings and repeats until the end, “There is more that I require of thee”.
 
That part gets me every time. As I grow closer to God, I’m discovering that He has so much to give and pour out to his children but it requires us to do one thing:
 
Say yes.
 
“The Lord had said to Abram, ‘Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you” (Genesis 12:1).
 
Abraham (formally known as Abram before God changed his name), was living in the city of Ur when God spoke to him and told him to leave his father’s house to go to the land of Canann. God told Abraham he would birth from him a great nation, make his name great and bless him (see verses 2-3). Spoiler alert…Abraham packed up his family and left. He said yes to the calling.
 
When God tells us to do something, it is vital that we are obedient. He wouldn’t tell us to do something that He knows we wouldn’t be able to handle. I know it can be scary at times but I’m a living witness that saying yes to His will and to his way will bring you peace even in the midst of a storm.
 
Accepting God’s calling isn’t always easy for everyone. In my early teenage years I would say, “I do not want to be a preacher or speaker like some of my family members because you have to have a special anointing for that”. The more I kept running away from it, the more God caught up to me. No, I’m not a preacher, but God revealed that one of my assignments was for me to speak to women about toxic relationships and help them know their worth. That requires me to speak. The thing I was trying to run away from, is the very thing I’m doing right now. Funny how God works out in our lives. He delivered me from brokenness and now I have to share my testimony LOL! 
 
Don’t know if its God telling you to do something? Pray for confirmation and clarity. When I heard God speak to me about moving to Tampa, FL, I knew I had heard from God but I wanted to make sure. I prayed about it constantly. When I went on a school tour to my now alma mater, the University of South Florida (USF), I told God to please give me confirmation while I was there. When it was time to come back home, there was a white truck in front of me with a USF tag. That white truck drove in front of me the entire three hour trip. That is no coincidence. That was God saying, “Just let me lead”.
 
Keep in mind, that if you don’t say yes to God’s calling, you better believe He will find someone who will. I don’t know about you, but I’m not letting anyone get my blessings! I’m not saying that it will be a smooth walk in the park after telling God yes. What I am saying is you will be rewarded for being obedient. You may not always know what to do or how everything is going to work out, but by being obedient you're telling God, "Hey! I trust you. I will let you lead me." What you were afraid to do will soon fill you with so much joy and peace.
 
Love, Tyrah
 

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3/8/2019 3 Comments

Beauty in the Wait

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One of the hardest things for me to do is wait. I can get really impatient at times. I’ll go to the gym for a couple of days and get frustrated when I haven’t gained muscle or lost a couple of pounds in one week. I’ll try a new product and get irritated if it doesn’t work immediately. I know I’m not alone. I know there are many others out there that find it hard to wait. Whether that’s waiting for the perfect man or woman God has for you, waiting for your shift to be over at work or waiting for your food to heat up in the oven, many of us struggle with waiting. The most common: Waiting for your dreams to come true. We’ve all been there before.
 
We live in a what I like to call a “microwave society”. A lot of us want it right now by any means necessary. We don’t want to go through hardships and trials to get to the finish result. I am also guilty of this. Sometimes I wish I could just blink my eye and have 1 million dollars in my bank account or flash forward to where I’m living out my dreams that I know God promised me. Unfortunately, life is not that way.
 
We have to go through a period of waiting. It is necessary for our growth in life. I like to compare waiting to a crock pot. Unlike a microwave that heats up food in minutes, a crock pot is designed to cook your food slowly. It could take up half the day depending on who is using it. When I was little, my dad would use his crock pot to cook almost every Sunday so that by the time we were out of church, the food would be ready. The food would be so delicious and seasoned perfectly! Sometimes it wouldn't be ready when we came home, but the wait was worth it.
 
Most of us hate the waiting period, especially when we’ve been waiting years for God to answer a prayer. However, I’m here to tell you that there is beauty in waiting. How do I know this? The Bible says, “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint” (Isaiah 40:31). When God has you in your waiting period, instead of complaining, think about why He has you waiting.
 
If you know me, you know I’ve been trying to launch my career as a reporter for quite some time. I’ve been blessed with opportunities such as hosting the New York Yankees Spring Training and hosting other gigs here and there, but I have yet to be hired as a reporter in a long term position. I’ve put in about 50 applications, maybe even more. I also have desires to model and act. I guess you can say I love being in front of a camera.
 
A couple of weeks ago, I was praying and asking God when is my time coming. He said, “It’s coming soon. You just weren’t ready when you thought you were”.
 
I was shocked. In my head I was so ready back then. It was in that moment God told me that the blessing I’ve been waiting for was just delayed. It was never denied. He has been pruning me this entire time. He has been protecting me from things that I couldn't see ahead. He has been shaping and molding me so by the time it comes, I will be fully prepared and equipped! He has been erasing all the evidence from my past so that no one can dig it up. God’s protection is so real and for that I am so thankful for the wait.
 
Many characters in the Bible had to wait for their promises from God. Think about Abraham, Joseph, and David. What did they all have in common? They had to wait. Abraham had to wait for a son to be born to his wife Sarah at an old age, Joseph had to wait for his dreams to come true and David had to wait to be king. There was a process to go through. I’m sure like the rest of us, Abraham, Joseph and David got tired of waiting at some point. But their perseverance and faith in God pulled them through. They kept remembering the promises that were spoken over their lives.
 
So instead of complaining about the wait, ask God to reveal the purpose behind your wait. Continue to learn your craft, build relationships, mentor, grow, pray and fast. As you do those things, God’s plan for you will become more clear. You may have to go through some situations that make you uncomfortable, but when the time comes for you to receive everything God promised you, you will look back and thank Him for making you wait.

Love, Tyrah

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